Daily Comments 2025
18 April 2025
What has Happened to Professionalism and Humanism in Business?
I’m struggling to understand how businesses operate at times! Here are two examples from my own experience:
For the past two years, I’ve been representing a product as a third-party vendor. I’ve established strong relationships with most of my clients and have consistently maintained a professional approach in this role. However, two months ago, while fulfilling my assignments, I discovered that the vendor responsible for compensating me either misplaced or failed to recognize the contract. As a result, I wasn’t paid for the work I completed—even though the tasks were clearly listed on my assignment sheet!
I have been communicating with individuals from both the contracting company and the business I represent. The business believes the contracting company holds the contract and expects me to continue servicing the clients in the field. However, the lack of communication between the two companies has become the central issue.
Two weeks ago, one of the clients reached out to me regarding a malfunction with the product I service. I immediately informed both companies and sought clarity on my status as a representative. Despite my efforts, I’m still waiting for answers. This morning, the same client contacted me again about ongoing malfunctioning issues, and once again, I am reaching out to both companies, urging them to address this situation promptly.
My dilemma is that I have a reputation to uphold, and I am committed to assisting the client and addressing the issues. However, I can’t help but wonder why these two businesses fail to fulfill their due diligence. Currently I am providing a service, and I haven’t been paid, nor do I expect to see payment.
Since December 20, 2024, my husband has been out of work. Despite the challenges, he has been diligently searching for employment, attending two to three interviews each week. On multiple occasions, he’s been told he was hired, only to face delayed start dates or retracted offers.
The most recent situation involves a potential out-of-area job. To accept this three-week assignment, he would need accommodations in the city where he would be working. Initially, the offer wasn’t sufficient to cover his expenses while earning a reasonable wage. After explaining his needs, the company agreed. However, two days later, they reduced the hourly rate by $5—a significant cut considering the cost of a hotel room. Even so, he reluctantly agreed.
Since then, he has been waiting for the offer in writing. Despite leaving multiple messages for the representative handling his case, he has not received a response.
Yesterday, my husband spoke with the lead of the project, who expects him to report to the site at 7:30 a.m. this Monday. My husband responded that he would be there, but only if he received the offer letter from the assigning company. He explained that he hasn’t heard from them since their last verbal offer and has been trying to get in touch and is still waiting for a response.
Within ten minutes of the phone call, the assigning company contacted my husband and reprimanded him for speaking directly with the project lead. When he attempted to explain that the situation could have been avoided if they had followed through with the appropriate paperwork, the conversation ended abruptly with them stating, “We expect you at the site on Monday.” As of today, he still has not received a written agreement or clarification on the pay scale.
Is this how business is being conducted and if so, we are truly in trouble that individuals are not being responsible for what they need to do to create the business transactions that are created.
Why do I feel I am the one responsible and too many others are choosing to do as little as they can to keep their job.
One last thought: I was at the grocery store recently, searching for a product I’ve purchased there before but couldn’t find on the shelf. After waiting over ten minutes at the customer service counter for assistance, I asked if they still carried the item. Without even checking, I was told, “If it’s not on the shelf, we don’t carry it.” When I requested they look it up, they simply told me to go back and check the shelf again. What’s going on here?
17 April 2025
Shame on you RFK jr.
I share your frustration with Robert Kennedy Jr.’s comments on Autism. My son, now 34, was diagnosed with Asperger’s—part of the Autism Spectrum—when he was just six years old. Autism is not a disease; it’s a way of being.
“A disease is a condition that disrupts the normal functioning of an organism’s body. It can result from a variety of causes, such as infections caused by bacteria, viruses, fungi, or parasites, genetic disorders, environmental factors, or unhealthy lifestyle choices. Diseases can affect specific parts of the body, such as the lungs in pneumonia, or the entire system, like diabetes.
Some diseases are contagious and can spread from one person to another, while others are non-communicable and cannot be passed on, such as cancer or heart disease. Treatment and prevention vary depending on the nature and cause of the disease. It’s a fascinating—and sometimes sobering—topic to explore!”
Autism is a Spectrum Disorder.
“A spectrum disorder is a condition that can present with a wide range of symptoms, characteristics, and levels of severity. The term “spectrum” reflects the idea that these disorders do not have a one-size-fits-all definition or appearance—they vary greatly from one individual to another.
A well-known example is autism spectrum disorder (ASD), which encompasses a variety of traits related to social communication, repetitive behaviors, and sensory sensitivities. People with ASD might experience these traits differently; some may require significant support in daily life, while others may live more independently.
Spectrum disorders allow for a more inclusive understanding of conditions by recognizing that no two individuals are identical in their experiences. Would you like to dive deeper into a specific spectrum disorder or learn more about how they’re identified and managed?”
My son does not have a disease, and he is certainly not contagious—nor are his father and I. In fact, his father exhibits many traits of someone on the higher end of the spectrum. At the age of 57, he was formally diagnosed, which offered us clarity and understanding for what some might perceive as unique or unconventional behaviors.
Let me start by talking about my husband, who thrives in one-on-one communication when he feels comfortable in his surroundings. His mother often remarked that he marches to the beat of a different drummer. Although he faced challenges in certain social situations, he developed the ability to identify and utilize tools that helped him navigate a path alongside neurotypicals. [My husband has a Masters in Higher Education earned with honors.]
After our son was diagnosed, the school system reduced him to a statistic—one of 150 individuals diagnosed in 1996 who required special attention and accommodations. While some of this support was necessary and beneficial, it also led to segregation that had harmful effects. Tragically, he endured bullying and missed out on key growth experiences, largely due to the attitudes of individuals like RFK Jr., who viewed him as a liability rather than recognizing his true potential.
RFK Jr. has no understanding of what he’s talking about, and his words are causing pain for so many of us. Today, my son holds a management position in the sports industry. He has lived independently for over five years, starting in New York, then moving to Texas, and now settling in Kentucky. Autism is not a disease, so it doesn’t need to be cured, but my son has learned to manage it. For some individuals on the spectrum, this might involve medication, therapy, or specific strategies. For others, it’s about being accepted, understood, and treated with respect—not victimized.
My son attended college and graduated college and holds a BA in Business Management. He has followed his dreams working his way up in the sports industry beginning with The Akron Rubber Ducks, The Guardians (Indians), The Binghamton Ponies, The Dallas Wings (WNBA) and currently with The Louisville Bats.
My son is at the high end of the spectrum and since it is a spectrum disorder there are many individuals that live differently. However, I have a friend whose son will never live on his own and will always have some form of guidance and guardianship, however he is living his full time and he is an artist who sells his paintings and his commissioned by many because of his love and passion he creates in his artwork.
My son is on the high end of the spectrum, and since autism is a spectrum disorder, individuals experience and navigate life in diverse ways. For example, I have a friend whose son will never live independently and will always require guidance and guardianship. Despite this, he leads a fulfilling life as an artist. His talent and passion shine through in his paintings, which he sells to many admirers and creates on commission, reflecting his love for art in every piece.
My son’s best friend played collegiate basketball at Michigan State University, where he earned a championship ring. He has since become a speaker and advocate for individuals on the autism spectrum and now works in the educational system. As a father to three healthy, beautiful children, he embodies resilience and success. Although he faced misunderstanding during his childhood, he was fortunate to have a supportive and loving family who encouraged him to pursue his passions.
Autism is not an easy condition to navigate, and as parents, I can say it transformed my life and my husband’s in ways we never anticipated. When our son was diagnosed, we faced judgment and exclusion from many people, and some even blamed us—suggesting that having a child at age 40 was “too late” in life. Autism is not a disease, nor is it caused by anyone. While studies are exploring genetic links to better understand it, even if we had known before Alex’s birth, it would not have changed a thing. He is our son, and he is deeply loved.
10 April 2025
It’s Autism Awareness Month, and I feel it’s time for me to speak out.
My youngest son, Alex, was neurotypical—until he wasn’t. When he was in first grade, the school psychologist identified him as Autistic, and we were advised to get a formal diagnosis. Within days, we had an appointment with Dr. Max Wiznitzer at University Hospital, who ultimately diagnosed Alex with Asperger’s syndrome (a term that is no longer used). We were told that Alex was extremely high functioning. At age six, he had met and continued to meet his developmental milestones, but he showed some tendencies that placed him under the Autism umbrella. If the school needed a label, then Alex now had one.
In some circles, we were even criticized for acknowledging Alex’s diagnosis. Some people saw him as neurotypical, while others treated him as odd. In the 1990s, Autism was still largely misunderstood, and you either “looked” and “acted” Autistic, or you didn’t. The label became a social barrier—not only for Alex but also for his father and me.
It wasn’t just teachers and classmates’ parents who distanced themselves; even some family members kept us at arm’s length. My mom initially believed that Alex’s Autism was a result of me giving birth at age 40. One of my sisters-in-law dismissed Alex as simply being a brat, blaming my supposed poor parenting. Over time, my mom came to understand the condition and supported us through emotional, physical, and financial struggles—especially during a time when insurance denied coverage for Alex’s medical expenses.
In another blog, I shared how Dr. Max assured us that Alex would grow, develop, and mature into his own person, and that we’d notice significant changes around his 25th birthday. He believed Alex needed to cultivate his own social skills to become the mature adult he is today.
Alex doesn’t fit the portrayal of individuals in the Netflix series Autism in Love, yet this series has garnered widespread praise. My concern with this show is that it fails to represent the diversity of individuals on the spectrum. It focuses on dating, relationships, and marriage, which are not realistic aspirations for everyone on the spectrum. If you’re going to depict Autism in love, why not include people like Alex and others who have careers, friendships, and independent lives? The series reinforces narrow stereotypes that do not reflect the wide range of abilities and experiences within the Autistic community.
There are countless individuals like my son who, despite their talents and abilities, are excluded from social circles or are pushed to only associate with others on the spectrum. Years ago, this happened to Alex when a director from a local Autism Speaks chapter attempted to pair him with a young girl also on the spectrum. While her intentions were kind, the girl was not at a stage of maturity to engage with a boy, and Alex felt as though he was being told, “This is the best you will ever do.”
To make matters worse, a psychiatrist once told Alex he would never work in sports or live independently. She predicted he’d live in a group home and hold menial jobs. How wrong she was! Alex has proven her—and so many others—wrong.
Whether or not we’re on the spectrum (and many people likely go undiagnosed), we all deserve the right to choose who we associate with and who we may or may not want to marry. It’s time to stop labeling and making assumptions about one another. Labels reflect what we believe, and if we believe that Autism in Love represents all Autistic individuals, we perpetuate harmful stereotypes.
Let’s take this month to truly gain awareness.
2 April 2025
Are you searching for answers?
What are the questions that guide you?
It’s curious how we’re always on a quest for something—and yet, when we finally find it, is it ever truly what we were seeking?
Since childhood, I’ve heard tales of the legendary Fountain of Youth. We’re so often lured into imagining a picturesque, crystal-clear spring nestled in a peaceful, idyllic setting—a magical place where, if found, we would remain forever young and beautiful.
As I embrace the later chapters of my life, I find myself longing for the beauty and vitality of youth. Yet, I’m pleasantly surprised to realize that reconnecting with my youthful spirit doesn’t require the mythical Fountain of Youth or Ponce de León’s legendary quest. The Fountain of Youth symbolizes our pursuit of renewal and transformation, and at any age—regardless of income—we can choose to cultivate our wellness. Ultimately, it’s a matter of intentionality and the choices we make.
Searching for answers can lead to fulfilling discoveries and satisfaction, but it can also uncover the legendary Pandora’s box. This iconic symbol from Greek mythology tells the story of Pandora, whose boundless curiosity mirrored that of Eve from the Garden of Eden. Despite being warned not to open the jar, Pandora—like Eve—succumbed to temptation. When she opened it, mythology claims she unleashed the world’s evils: suffering, despair, illness, and perhaps even the seeds of global warming.
Eve’s tale explores themes of temptation, free will, the pursuit of knowledge, and the far-reaching consequences of choice. Both stories underscore the intricate layers of human nature and the inherent risks in the quest for understanding.
Today, many of us find ourselves searching for our identities. Growing up in the 1950s and 60s, as part of the baby boomer generation, I believed the United States was a land of opportunity and happiness. I watched my parents navigate lean years with grace, living fully within their means.
At a time when most mothers were stay-at-home moms, my mother broke the mold—working outside the home and earning money for her pushkie. In Yiddish, pushkie refers to a small container or box, and my mother had an old cigar box that likely belonged to her mother. Every penny she earned from sewing for others, baking for friends and family, or crafting her unique line of cloth dolls went into that box. For her, this pushkie wasn’t just a stash—it was her expression of independence and identity.
But as I stepped into my 20s, I began to notice a world of choices unfolding before me. Rather than seeking clarity or answers to the questions these choices brought, I leapt in headfirst—only to find myself wrestling with pain and anxiety as the years went on. This is not to say my life was bad, it was good but not as good as it is now.
My life feels brighter, better, and truly authentic because I seek answers to my questions. The answers I need stem from self-awareness and understanding what truly matters to bring me happiness. When a mother is happy, the ripple effect often touches the entire family, creating a more positive and supportive atmosphere that can help children thrive. However, you don’t need to be a mother to inspire and uplift those around you. Sharing positivity—even as simple as offering a smile—has a contagious power to impact others in meaningful ways.
If you are searching for the meaning of life – find your authentic self and you will have your answer!
1 April 2025
April 1st is often the one day of the year when pranking becomes widely accepted, thanks to April Fool’s Day. Historically, it has been customary to dedicate one day annually to playing harmless tricks on one another. While researching its origins, I found conflicting accounts regarding who first introduced this tradition—whether it was Chaucer in The Canterbury Tales, the French poet Eloy d’Amerval, or someone from the Middle Ages.
Interestingly, there’s also a Jewish reference tied to Noah and the Great Flood. The story suggests that Noah released a dove from the Ark before the waters had receded—a decision considered a “foolish act” in retrospect. Regardless of its origins, April Fool’s Day remains a unique celebration of lighthearted mischief.
Well, I am not here to fool you, in fact I am not good at trickery of any kind and if I were to attempt it I would most likely make myself look Foolish!
Here are some phrases and traditions that might signal someone is pulling an April Fool’s prank:
- In the United States, pranks are often revealed with the phrase “April Fool!”
- In Germany, the phrase “April, April!” is shouted to mark the joke.
- In Italy, France, Belgium, parts of Switzerland, and Canada, pranks often involve secretly sticking a paper fish on someone’s back. In these regions, newspapers may also publish fake news stories featuring a fish as the subject.
- In the UK, after an April Fool’s prank, it’s common to yell “April fool!” at the recipient, declaring them the “April fool” of the moment.
April Fool’s traditions vary across cultures, but they all share a lighthearted spirit of fun and mischief!
Here are some pranks I have learned of but please don’t try these at home!
- Remove the cream from an Oreo and replace it with toothpaste or replace sugar with salt (if you still use a sugar bowl).
- Hide a rubber snake or mouse in a drawer to scare your victim when they open it.
- The BBC in the past did a story on farmers picking spaghetti from the wheat fields.
- Back in the early days of television, Swedish National Television told viewers that placing a nylon sock over their screens would turn them into color TV.
- On April 1, 1980, Boston television station WNAC-TVaired a fake news bulletin at the end of the 6 o’clock news which reported that Great Blue Hill in Milton, Massachusetts was erupting. (This created a panic that was not funny!)
- In 1997, Pat Sajak and Alex Trebek swapped roles, with Pat hosting Jeopardy! and Alex hosting Wheel of Fortune. A lighthearted and memorable switch.
- In 2008, the BBCreported a newly discovered colony of flying penguins.
- In 1988, Capital Radio in London gave all their breakfast-show time-checks one hour early, panicking listeners who needed to get up for work.
Some pranks lean towards harmless humor, while others teeter on chaos—always a reminder to tread carefully with mischief!
Wishing you all a fantastic Tuesday, April 1, 2025! Keep your wits about you—today might just bring a playful prank your way!
30 March 2025
Toilet paper—yes, I’m diving into the topic of this everyday essential that we all rely on. Once upon a time, buying it was straightforward. There were only a handful of brands, all producing standard rolls designed to fit neatly onto the classic toilet paper holder, often built right into the bathroom wall beside the commode. Use to be so simple to purchase this item, there were ‘x’ brands that all came on a circular role that fit on the conventional toilet paper tool that often was set into the bathroom wall right next to the commode. However, in the pursuit of greater market dominance, Corporate America has made changes to this everyday item to such an extent that it has reached a level of complexity I never anticipated, nor WANT!
Does your toilet paper roll fit on your standard holder? And if it does, does it actually roll smoothly? Mine doesn’t! Instead, I find myself wrestling with the roll at the most inconvenient moment, just when I need enough to properly take care of business! (Wipe my Tush!)
Why did the product managers at Proctor & Gamble (a nod to Mr. Whipple), Northern, Angel Soft, Scott Paper Products, and countless others feel the need to make changes to this product that, in my opinion, adds no value? It’s a mystery worth pondering, and that is what I am doing.
Have you noticed that the softer the tissue, the more dust it seems to create? And who even decides what counts as “softness”? If you’re a Charmin user, you might recall the nostalgic “Please don’t squeeze the Charmin” commercials featuring Mr. Whipple. For years, Charmin held its place as the softest option, fitting perfectly on toilet roll holders without creating a dust storm. But now, I find myself sneezing and battling dust clouds as I struggle just to grab enough tissue to get the job done!
Haven’t we already got enough changes to navigate in the world? And yet, toilet paper has somehow become one of the greatest daily challenges we face. Perhaps Elon Musk could channel his innovations toward ensuring we can handle our business in peace, without turning it into a full-blown battle while seated on the commode!
So, what do you think?
March 28, 2025
I’ve said it before and I will say it again, and probably more times may come, I am so proud of my sons, but specifically today it is my son Alex, my youngest.
As I have shared on numerous occasions when Alex was diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum too many people (teachers, therapists, and doctors) underestimated his abilities. Sadly, there were too many of these individuals who were part of his education and healthcare that chose to relate to him (and us) with low expectations. However, thanks to Dr. Max Wiznitzer (UH) his father and I encouraged Alex to be the best he could be. We did not strive for perfection (although we have learned that is what he heard). For example, when Alex wanted to play baseball, but coaches didn’t want to work with him because he understood the game on a professional level and not as little league, or high school rules, we enrolled him in baseball lessons where he excelled and loved learning how to perfect his swing, his catch and his throwing. (This is meeting someone where they are not taking them in your direction to fill your needs.)
But let’s get to today.
Alex has been working in Sports for over 10 years. He has progressed and worked himself up the ranks. Baseball has always been his first love from the night he stayed up late watching the Orioles play the Cleveland Indians, calling them the Oreos and asking his dad questions about each play. At the age of 2 or 3 he became so mesmerized by the game he started mimicking the stances of players and began to see what worked and what didn’t. Although he had not yet been diagnosed, he demonstrated a remarkable ability to observe and learn continuously. In addition to baseball other sports peaked his interest and he found his Zayde, my father was sports liaison as he knew more than his dad and anyone else he tried to converse with. On one such occasion a few years into this deep interest Alex was watching Golf on TV and insisted he call his Zayde because he saw something that he knew only my dad would relate to. And so, it began almost 32 years ago.
Three plus years ago while working at the Guardians Alex realized that he had hit his ceiling. Although there was so much more he wanted to learn and do with his favorite home team he knew he has to move on to something bigger where he could spread his wings and grow.
His first stop was working in merchandising for the Binghamton Ponies, what he had hoped would be a long-term learning opportunity was cut short after a few months, he knew he did not belong there, and he sensed that there were some in the organization that did not see his value.
However, Alex knew his value, we believed in him, and he came home to start his career search. The search took him to the WNBA and Dallas, Texas. (Now for those who said he would never make it, he not only drove the 1000+ miles to his new home and career, but he did also it with confidence.) Alex worked with this team, and he learned from his managers and specifically the CFO (AMBER) what he needed to know in order to prove his worth and be able to make it to the next level.
Today is the opening day in Louisville, Ky for the Louisville Bats the Triple A team for the Cincinnati Reds. Just 8 weeks ago Alex arrived in Louisville hired as their Merchandising Manager. He walked into some chaos with a new Team Store being built and merchandise that had been stored that he had to begin making sense of. It may have looked like an endless defeating job to many but “He buckled right in with a bit of a grin, and didn’t say NO he just did IT!”
As Alex’s sounding board, I’ve found it invaluable to have someone who listens without judgment. Since starting newclevelandradio.net in May 2017, this has helped us vent frustrations and fuel our success.
Today, not only is it opening day at the Louisville Slugger Field it is the opening of their newly designed BATS Team Store Managed by Alex Hale. This morning Alex was one of a handful of Managers and Staff that were interviewed on TV (locally in Louisville). I was not able to view it myself, but I know he represented himself and his new team well.
For those of you reading this who may know my son but did not believe in him, well I am here to tell you that you made a big mistake discounting his ability.
For those of you who may be reading this and have a child on the spectrum or with any special needs, believe in them and let them lead you, they will become the best versions of themselves.
As parents we must keep our children safe, but we must let them forge into the world and be who they were meant to be. Yes we can coach and guide them, but we cannot lead them to the water and make them drink.
I know there were times I tried, but Alex showed me the way and for that I must say it makes me proud.
For the record, Alex’s older brother Steve is amazing himself. Steve too has made choices that I have learned to understand and lean into. They are brothers who are as different as night and day.
I am KVELING.
Check it out: https://louisvillebats.milbstore.com/
March 16, 2025, Winter is almost over, and I am looking forward to Spring and Summer. I am not a winter person; I seek the sunshine and warmth which energizes me. Winter is my hibernation time and was more obvious this year with the injury to my right shoulder that had me sidelined for a while. I am recuperating well, and I am excited that I am seeing the results from therapy as I continue with OT to ensure a full recovery.
The past few months have given me time to re-evaluate what is important in my life and I am looking forward to being more mindful of what I need so I can be the best version of myself (for others).
I am creating a recording schedule that works for me. I am accepting the fact that it is not my job/purpose to accommodate everyone. If it doesn’t work for me I will not be my authentic self and that is very important for me as I carve out my journey. It is imperative that I am enjoying my experiences in life because we only walk this path once. I want to encourage you to do the same, life is short, and regrets can be limited. We have no guarantees in life, but we have the opportunity to use our challenges in a productive and positive manner.
When I select guests to be part of one of our many podcasts on newclevelandradio.net I am looking for individuals that have a story, journey, challenge to share with my listeners. When we hear someone else’s words we often can relate in some manner that may provide us with options for opportunities we may not have noticed in the past. Too often we walk down the path of least resistance, and we pass the many options that are scattered all around us. Learning mindfulness is the first step to finding our inner happiness and fulfilling our needs.
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10 March 2025
I arrived in Louisville on Thursday evening with the intention of spending quality time with my son, who relocated here a month ago. He has assigned me the task of organizing his apartment and enhancing its aesthetic according to his preferences.
Friday I took the day to setup his apartment while he went to work for ¾ of the day. We spent a leisurely evening together and we regain some of the time we lost over the holidays.
On Saturday morning, I went to work at the Louisville Slugger stadium’s open house for season ticket holders. I met some of my sons’ coworkers and fans, helped set up merchandise sales, and greeted fans. It was enjoyable, but by 2pm, I was exhausted and needed a nap. Later, we chatted until our eyelids grew heavy and we called it a night.
Springing forward this morning we spent a lazy Sunday morning watching TV, having a small breakfast while both of us took time to get caught up on our work projects in anticipation of tomorrow.
Tomorrow we are going the Louisville Bat Museum. Since Alex was two years old my husband thought about bringing him here so now that he lives here I am taking him to the museum at the age of 34.
Tomorrow, we are visiting the Louisville Bat Museum. My husband and I had considered bringing Alex here since he was two years old. Now that Alex lives here and is 34 years old, I am taking him to the museum.
We just returned from an early dinner at Olive Garden one of Alex’s favorite places. Again, we sat there and chatted.
As you can tell I am writing my blog as I have missed a few days as I have taken this time to soak everything in here. The changes I have seen in my son make me KVEL.
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My coaching skills allow me to understand and accept my sons, even when we disagree. This change has been rewarding and helps us communicate without judgment. I believe this makes me a better person.
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3 March 2025
BASEBALL
It’s amazing how my love for sports has evolved and connected me to different teams, and how my youngest son has played such a significant role in reigniting my passion. The Louisville Bats are a fantastic AAA baseball team to root for, however I will continue to hold onto my long-time loyalty to the Guardians.
The Annual Open House at Slugger Field sounds like such a fun event! (And I will be there to enjoy the festivities from the stadium tours to Baseball Bingo—and especially the chance to play catch on the field—it seems like the perfect way for fans to immerse themselves in the excitement of the season ahead. Fingers crossed for favorable weather as predicted.
Here’s an incredible season for the Louisville Bats and a year full of treasured sports memories for you and your family, as well as for mine.
1 March 2025
The week of 23 February 2025
When you plan your week and others are involved to remain happy and sane you must be prepared to pivot. I began pivoting on Sunday, the first day of what was to be a very busy week.
Sunday ‘our plans’ (my husband and I) were to go to breakfast earlier than usual on Sunday (we go to a local coffee shop every Sunday). However, my husband was having a rough morning so early became late. Now late would not have been an issue but the Auto Show was/is in town and he wanted to go and drag me along with him. We arrived at the busiest time of the show on that day and the ability for him to leisurely look and observe just wasn’t happening. I did my best to adjust to the crowds with a smile. After the car show he wanted to go out for a late lunch/early dinner but instead we went grocery shopping, and I came home and prepared dinner (another adjustment I was not prepared for).
Last week I emptied my schedule for Monday as my husband had an assignment in Bowling Green, Ohio and he asked if I would accompany him since it is a minimum of a 2-hour trip to and from. Pivoting began prior to our departure, as usual we were on Richard time, not quite EST. It was a long day and after traveling (including pit stops to make it feel almost like a date), I was glad to be home to sit and veg.
Early Tuesday morning 3 of my 4 clients needed to reschedule with empathetic understanding.
What in the World had been scheduled for Wednesday at 3pm and in the middle of recording my computer got a direct Malware Attack that stop the recording in its tracks. This was also the day my husband began having severe vertigo and I was physically and emotionally assisting him. The following day his symptoms worsened and went to Urgent Care who sent us to the Emergency Room. By 8pm on Thursday night they were trying to admit him the hospital but finding a bed was an ordeal. When he finally got admitted a CAT SCAN indicated the need for an MRI, the MRI indicated an inconclusive report, and although he didn’t feel ‘that’ ill, everything they did for him make him feel sick. I spent the night sleeping (if you call it that..) upright in a chair.
Hallelujah, at 6pm Friday night my husband was released, and despite some further outpatient testing and therapy he is doing well. The vertigo still needs to be addressed but despite it being annoying his medical team believes PT will help resolve or limit the episodes.
Today, Saturday I had another podcast scheduled that the host needed to reschedule and until March 22nd which gives me another free day, pivoting in this maze of life.
As I look back at my week part of me feels inadequate and yet there is another part of me that makes me feel ADEQUATE or more in dealing with change and adapting as needed for others as well as myself. Whoever said life was easy and perfect was writing a fairy tale because life too often throws lemons at us and unless we make lemonade it can be difficult to find the sunshine that enables us.
So, this week I will not be posting any podcasts ad I will not allow myself to think less of myself for not accomplishing what I had set out to accomplish. I was in the right place at the right time.
The next time you find yourself in the MAZE pivot and you will find your way.
HOW TO PIVOT
1.To pivot you must turn and shift your weight and thoughts.
2.Change your focus, adapt to your surroundings or move to a new spot.
3.Change direction by choice or by need.
4.Reorganize your thoughts to find the path you need to follow.
5.Make a life choice change.
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27 February 2025
When life throws Lemons at you, Make Lemonade, and if you don’t like lemonade, trade off those lemons for something else, use the bartering system. Bartering begins within. This system of trading began in ancient times. Instead of paying with cash or credit card, you offer something in exchange for something else. We often use this methods within out families and it can be a worthwhile and satisfying practice.
Bartering is being used among neighbors and friends. You may have a service you can provide for someone and in return they exchange something of value to you. As a young child I use to water a neighbor’s flowers in the summer and in return she would make a bouquet of flowers I would give to my mother. In my child’s mind I was earning brownie points from my mother as I proved I was responsible in completing my chore with our neighbor.
I often barter with myself, specifically at those time I feel down and out over an issue I may or may not have control over. But I do have the control to set my thoughts in a more positive and productive manner.
I have shared on various occasions that I am compulsive. I expect a lot from myself, and I can get into a loop where I cause my own stress which leads to aggression too often causing physical distress culminating into chronic migraine and fibromyalgia discomfort. However, through my lifelong training I have learned how to negotiate with myself when I get in one of these cycles. (I’m not perfect and sometimes I don’t catch myself until I am spiraling out.) One example has been with my shoulder recovery. I know what I am capable of doing today and with the proper exercise (therapy) and time what I will be able to do in the future. But being the compulsive person I am I tend to overdo, overreach, cause discomfort and eventually pain that requires significant down time. My body needs to be forced into relaxation, I have trained myself to always be on the go and doing, however, a few accidents such as breaking my shoulder, and aging are slowing me down. However, when I barter with myself I can slow down in a productive way.
Slowing down in a productive way for me is keeping a list of what I want to accomplish each day and accepting that I may not fulfill my list. The more realistic I am with my wants and needs will determine my personal success. I have also learned that it is ‘ok’ to ask for help/assistance/guidance to meet my success. It’s not cheating! (I used to believe it was.)
My wonderful coach, Candace Pollock, The Intentionality Gurus, continues to ask the question, ‘how is that working for you?’ The majority of my marriage (41 plus years), I rarely asked my husband to do any chores domestic, professionally, or personally for me unless I was ill or I was helping someone else. I didn’t want to intrude, nor did I want to look needy so instead I became compulsive in doing it all and when I couldn’t I became angry, frustrated, and found myself feeling useless.
Truth be told I was and am far from useless. I am capable of doing a lot of things (even while I am recovering from a broken/surgically repair shoulder). However, that question Candace proposes to me quite often, ‘and how is that working for you?’ Is one I have posted on my computer. When I look at it I begin my personal bartering system. What can I give myself in exchange for ‘it working for me’?
How can I assist you?
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16 February 2025
I’ve gotten spoiled over the last few winters, snow in Northeast Ohio was minimal and the temperatures were milder than they are this winter of 2025. I’m not a winter person, give me Spring, Summer and Fall year-round and I will be in my happy place. Snow is pretty on postcards, and I Hallmark© movies. At least that’s my opinion. I know some of you reading this are enjoying the snow and winter activities of skiing, skating, sledding or maybe plunging into a lake like a polar bear swimmer. On the subject of seasonal changes, I think we can all agree to disagree and not feel intimidated by each other’s opinions.
My question is why it is so easy to agree to disagree on various subjects and yet we are willing to walk away and disengage from people on other subjects. Why is it we are open minded in getting to know someone, but one issue can totally rock the boat and sink the relationship. It seems as if we continue to recreate the Garden of Eden allowing the snake to convince us to take a bite out of the apple often with words and actions that lead to meanness, even when we don’t identify with being mean.
Why do we strive to be ‘right’ instead of being understanding for a more peaceful world? Gaining insight into what others believe and why may be what our society needs. Often we have limitations learned through family, friends, and community. Limitations may be the cause of the hate and evil in our world. I am not suggesting that we become clones of each other in fact I am suggesting that we open our minds and hearts to the differences that may help each one of us become a better person.
“Limits, like fear, is often an illusion.” To overcome our limitations in action and thinking is to step outside of our comfort zone. We will never know our limits until we push ourselves. What is one thing you think you can’t do? What would it take to try it out?
Have you heard the term, ‘self-limiting beliefs?’ This refers to those thoughts that stop us from taking a step in a new direction. It’s the mental roadblocks that are screaming danger, danger, except is there really danger if you take a different path?
- Have you asked: “Am I good enough?” – I HAVE!
- Have you ever said: “I don’t deserve…” – I HAVE!
- Have you ever said: “I can’t change.” – I HAVE!
- Have you ever said or thought: “I fear failure.” – I HAVE!
- Have you ever thought: “They won’t like me.” – I HAVE!
You can overcome your sabotaging beliefs like I have using the technics I use with my clients.
- Challenge yourself – identify one belief and question if it is true or not.
- Make a list of the pros and cons
- Example, am I good enough:
- List the things you do well
- List the things you want to do better
- List the things you don’t want to do
- Practice self-love/caring
- Treat yourself with kindness
- Use the positive language you share with others
- Be your best friend
- Set Realistic Goals
- Don’t expect to change overnight
- Take baby steps
- Praise yourself for trying to make change
- Improve your negativity
- Practice gratitude
- Challenge your negative thoughts
- Limit your participation in negative activities
To be the best version of yourself cultivate healthy habits, focus on your emotional well-being which includes exercise, healthy eating habits, sleep and relaxation, and mindfulness. You can take the path that motivates you, it may not be the road others are traveling. Take your journey to fulfill your life and while not imposing on others and not allowing others to impose on yours.
“Keep looking up… that’s the secret of life.” – Snoopy
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26 January 2025 It is a little over a month since I broke my shoulder and humerus. It took 10 days to have surgery, but I must admit each day since surgery has been a little easier. I am not having PAIN although I am having discomfort, the scar is healing itchy and taught and learning to use my arm again and not overusing it can be challenging, but challenges make me stronger and wiser.
I must admit my husband of almost 41 years has stepped up his ‘game’, as I have been the independent one doing ‘things’ that he could have done or would have been willing to learn how to do. But I was raised in an era where I tried to be the best wife, and that meant doing the chores…until now.
I am learning slowly how to ask for assistance. It may be difficult after 41 years of marriage, 43 years together, and being in our 70s that we are adjusting and making the changes we need to keep ourselves actively happy.
Prior to my injury we bought a series of tickets for the Comedy Club and last night was our first night out. It was special for me since this past week with the below zero temps I was housebound (mostly by choice). Being out in public and being entertained by Tom Poppa at Hilarities was the best medicine for me. I will admit my shoulder and arm were gnawing at my nerves all day and despite the fact they I continued to feel uncomfortable I was able to pacify the aching feeling and laugh increasing my endorphins. Upon returning home I took my heating pad and placed it on my shoulder and comfortably fell asleep. (Don’t worry I use a gel pack heating device that within 20 minutes is room temperature, no fear of falling asleep with it and getting burned.) Last night for the first time in over a month I slept through the night waking up to a blue and sunny sky.
I often tell my listening audience as well as my life coaching clients, things happen for a reason. When we have an accident – “an unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, typically resulting in damage or injury” we must not blame ourselves and others, family and friends should not place the fault on us either.
We must learn from the event and there are lessons to be learned, one of my lessons was fixing a trip hazard in our home. I have tripped before, as have my husband and youngest son over the past 16 years in our home. My unfortunate incident was the catalyst to fix this situation turning this into a fortunate repair.
I also have learned that when you are in a partnership whether it be family, friends, work associates you need not be the one who thinks you are the only one who can do the chores. You must work as a team and use your skills wisely while giving others the opportunity to learn and assist you respecting your differences. Recently my husband and I talked about our grocery shopping skills. He likes one store, and I like another. The reason he shops at one is that it is slightly smaller, and he feels comfortable with their floor plan, the choices of products as well as the friendliness at the checkout and the fact that they place your groceries in your car.
The market I go to is larger, it takes me longer to maneuver through. In many incidents I believe they have lower prices, and more of a variety, but less in specialty items. However, their checkout system and their employees are not as friendly or courteous. When healthier I would use self-checkout to avoid the store personnel. They also do not have the ability to bring your groceries to your car so on cold icy snowy days it can be tricky getting your groceries loaded in your car.
Prior to my accident I did not understand the reasonings of my husband, who was willing to pay more for our weekly groceries but as we shared our thoughts and differences we agreed we both have valid points, and we will continue to work through obtaining our needs one shopping trip at a time.
“There is no such thing as accident, it is fate misnamed.” Napolean Bonaparte.
“Fate will find a way.” Virgil
I will find a way and get healthier and stronger each day!
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15 January 2025 Don’t get scammed! Just because someone found you on LinkedIn does not mean they are legitimate. We caught it before we got taken —
Somone contacted my husband – they saw his resume on LinkedIn – they claimed to be from TOPICUS – https://topicus.com/. They offered him a job in IT, his background, and even sent an offer letter but what was strange about the whole interaction, they contacted him and only communicated through MS TEAMS as a text. The biggest red flag was when they said they wanted to send him a check to deposit so he could buy the equipment he would need for the job and the job started on Monday of next week. They asked where he banked, he only gave the Bank Name, and they told him they didn’t like Bank 1 but claimed they had a relationship with Bank 2. This was a bigger and redder red flag.
We went to Bank 2 to ask them about this, and they informed us as we assumed this was a scam and someone was using us and we should cut off all communication with them, which we did. Luckily we did not share anything private with them and we are reporting this publicly so others can learn from what could have been fraud on our part if we had been susceptible. I trust the people at Bank 2 for being open and honest and direct with us.
Yes, my husband lost his job right before the holidays and yes he wants to get back into the work force, but it is sad that SCAMMERS will seek to hurt individuals who just want to do the right thing, work, and pay for their individual needs.
My husband has always been a trusting soul, and he truly wants to believe in the good of people, but I think he is not scared by this – why are there one two many scumbags in this world?
To those of you on LinkedIn as I am please, careful not everyone is a good respectable person. I think the majority of us are, but it only takes one person to trick you and ruin your reputation.
Beware of TOPICUS – not sure if it’s real or not!
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14 January 2025 It may be hard to believe but the SAGA of events continues.
The plumbing issue at our condo is not our fault or responsibility – however it has caused a huge inconvenience and expense as we cannot stay in out home since we cannot use water that includes toilets, showers, laundry, and the basics of life. Since Saturday we have been staying in a hotel, Country Inn & Suites, and we will be here till at least Thursday as mother nature is interfering with the ground repair to the sewer line. It is inevitable if not fixed the damage that is incurring my neighbor’s unit will expand beyond. We are lucky as of this writing we have no sewage backup in our unit, but my neighbor will have a huge insurance claim.
So, what does it mean? Although my aim and plan to return to work this week was in process I will be limiting myself to two podcasts. We are scheduled for What in the World with Paul Seaburn today at 3:30 pm we go live on YOUTUBE – and tomorrow we will have another edition of ISMs. Plan for a return next week to a fuller schedule.
The good news is I am healing from surgery, and the bad news is I cannot drive or bear weight on that arm until at least April. I have enough metal in that arm to set off all alarms so beware…
I start PT and OT next Monday I will be getting services at home – I have been selected to be part of a study program where I will be getting ‘cement’ injections beginning in April to assist with bone growth. I am excited about this, and I will be in the program for 18- 24 months. As my son has said this injury was a blessing in disguise as my torn rotator cuff was repaired as well, something I was suffering from but hesitated on the surgery.
Speaking of my sons I must say I feel blessed to have two adult children who have stayed connected and continue to share their love and support as my husband, and I continue to travel this rocky road. My husband, despite his own issues of losing his job and now trying to secure employment has truly stepped up to help me. I have shared previously for the last 40 years I have spoiled my husband. Typically, I have done all the household chores and specifically all the cooking, preparation and organizing of meals. He never showed an interest in cooking, and I have enjoyed cooking, baking, and keeping an organized home where there was no need for him to make the attempt. But he is learning, and I appreciate him more than ever. (Ladies, if your spouse acts like he is the King of the Castle ask yourself if you have anything to do with placing him on the throne!
As I continue to share we all need a little assistance and guidance and if you are considering getting Coaching Assistance – contact me.
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13 January 2025
Here is an update
OK – Life Is Messy, but we must take the good with the not so good.
I broke my right humerus and shoulder on Christmas eve, had surgery on January 2. Today, January 13, I returned to the surgeon, and I will begin PT and OT, I will not be able to bear any weight on that arm until my next set of x-rays and appointment on April 2. That also means no driving. So, I will be actively coaching and podcasting – so join me.
Join me tomorrow when What in the World with Paul Seaburn returns. Paul and john have promised to be humorous in honor of my right arm.
Since December 20th my family has endured a lot – the first thing was my husband losing his IT job (due to ageism). That was followed by our youngest son visiting for the holidays who was and di pursue a new job- a great career move. I then had my fall and broke my humerus which was not funny. I had to wait 10 days to have surgery, but I am glad to report I am healing with minimal pain. However, two days ago we had to move out of our condo due to a condo development sewer issue – no water or toilets to use.
It appears that this should be rectified by late today.
Do not ask what else can go wrong because my oldest brother lives in Southern California, just north of San Diego and although he is not in the evacuation zone at the moment he is in the alert zone. We have family and friends who have been evacuated and some who have lost everything, so I look at the last month and appreciate the ups rather than the downs.
The ups:
- Spending time with my son while he was in town.
- Learning to slow down and ask for help.
- Learning how to be a leftie – it’s not easy.
- Teaching my husband how to do all the things I have done our married life of 40 years and not expecting him to do.
- Learning how to tolerate pain and not succumb to the drugs offered.
- Appreciating the clouds as well as the sunshine.
- And today being able to type once again!
A special thank you to my friends, family, clients and FB friends for the reaching out and being a lifeline…
Please know I am doing my best to be there for all of you too.
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9 January 2025
This is my first blog of 2025 quite unusual for me as you most likely will note. Typically, I write A blog daily and I keep new Cleveland radio and yes I can coaching up to date. However, a funny thing happened to me on Christmas Eve. Just as I was finishing baking and preparing for dinner I had a fall in my own home. There’s no need to go into the explanation of how it happened or why it happened because it was an accident. However, this accident took me to the emergency room on Christmas Eve only to find out that I broke my humerus it surely wasn’t funny and my shoulder on my right side nonetheless and I’m righty.
Needless to say, Christmas and New Years and all the days in between are a complete blur as I was dealing with pain and doctor visits to determine the best course of treatment. A week ago, today I had surgery on my right arm, and I will admit each day I feel a little bit better but when you are 74 years old sustained an injury have surgery the medication and the anesthesia and just the agony of pain can really take a toll.
I am not complaining accidents happen and what happened to me I now realize that sometimes I have to be a little more careful and slower and not be in such a rush to get things done although I don’t think I was in a rush when this accident happened but if you ask my husband I’m always in a rush love my husband to death we don’t always see things the same way.
What this accident has shown me is that life really is messy and all we have to do is look outside of our lives and see what is happening around us. Who would have thought that California would basically burn to the ground? The most beautiful part of Hollywood is now in ruins so many people have not only lost their homes but their mementos that have meant so much to them in their lifetime family pictures family heirlooms written notes cards all the things that so many of us save. Yes, so many are grateful that they have escaped the horrendous fires and that they are in a safe place, however, as the sun continues to come up day after day and they have to rebuild it’s not just about the money it’s about rebuilding so much that has been lost. I feel very lucky today I had a surgeon who after looking at my X-rays and CT scan knew what he could do to not just fix my shoulder and arm but to get my shoulder and arm to rebuild itself that is like having those mementos however, he could have chosen what some would have called an easier path and that is to replace my bone and my shoulder with an artificial bone and shoulder and yes I would be recovering and I would be OK but I probably would not be as strong in the future if I did not have me original pieces and parts.
Sadly, I know too many people who are suffering right now so let me go back and share with you why I do what I do and why I am so open. A number of years ago after losing my corporate America job which paid me very well and helped sustain my family I found myself and the state of depression and confusion and wondering why me. This was not the first time in my life when I though, oh woe is me, but it was the beginning of a change in me that said I’m not going to complain I’m going to keep taking the steps forward in doing what I can do best to be my best. You see as a parent of a child who was born on the spectrum I was always the cheerleader always finding what was the best path for him encouraging him supporting him and sometimes being like a stage mom pushing him forward over and over and over again. But I realized if I could do it for him, why wasn’t it time for me to do it for myself. Interestingly I found a great job that I could do from home I started writing blogs for the senior community and I found myself learning so much about the community that I was growing into and I realized that even as we get older it doesn’t mean we have to stop living in fact what it means is we must enjoy ourselves we must learn how to live each day to its fullest.
Sometimes it’s difficult to take a step forward we think there are so many terrible things happening around us in fact the truth is there are so many great things that are happening around us. Today I feel grateful that I found my surgeon who knew how to fix my injury and that I am on the mend. Today I am grateful that so many of my friends and family on the West Coast are safe. Today I am grateful that as I recover I will be able to continue doing what I do best, which is podcasting and coaching so here it comes be ready for the next comment.
I believe that we all need a helping hand in fact I need one right now and what I’m going to do is make an offer that continues on with #yesi can coaching, we all need a support system and I have to tell you I learned in the last couple weeks who my supporters are where there was phone calls emails text messages or even a gift here and there some people who I didn’t even expect to hear from reached out to me so I know I’m on the right path when I’m doing the following.
Yes I can coaching typically charges 50 to $75.00 an hour and although I would like to continue to charge that I realize I can heal myself and help others if I keep my special end of year pricing so here it is everybody for $25 a session all sessions are on zoom I am here to help coach you through whatever you need. If I am not the right coach I will help you find someone because none of us should be walking through life alone.
Yes I can coaching with Karen I believe in you and I believe in myself right now I could be feeling very sorry for myself and saying “oh woe is me” because you know what, for at least the next six weeks I can’t drive a car and you know what that means even in the coldest deadest time of winter I’m going to be stuck in my house but that’s OK I am going to make the most of it and if I can make the most of it so can you so please reach out to me at [email protected] or [email protected] I look forward to you helping me as I help you in 2025.
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