Left Alex in Texas – healing on his own
I’ve been home about 36 hours and I am trying to catch up. Leaving Alex yesterday was not easy, we both agreed the time I spent with him was needed, and not just for his recuperation from surgery. Although I am his mother, being in his home made me take a step back. I did help him get organized something he’s been trying to do since he moved in December, but with work, Christmas break, and returning after the holidays ill, he just never got his things in order.
I respected his need for privacy, and he respected my efforts to keep him comfortable and on the road to wellness. Knowing that he still has a few weeks before he will be feeling more normal, I had to return home and leave him to sail his ship.
Sometimes as parents we tend to jump in and do the work for our kids and then one day, they have a problem, and they don’t know how to handle it. However, Alex has been observing us all these years and he is navigating his ship, steering away from the ice burgs. As a mom observing her child who is a young adult live on his own and prosper is a warm feeling of well done!
I think my fatigue is catching up with me and a good night’s sleep is needed. Tonight, when I lay my head on my pillow I know my sweet dreams will include both of my sons and my husband who are very special to me.
Good night, Rich…
Good night, Steve
Good night, Alex
“you are my sunshine…”
You Can Be Amazing Too!
15 April 2023
I tell people all the time how amazing they are because each one of us is amazing in our rights. However, for most of my life even when I thought I was amazing I did not believe it. In fact for years, any good or great ideas I had I would link to someone else taking the backseat (just in case I was wrong). No I was placing on someone if it went wrong in fact I often stepped up taking the blame…
I have worked with therapists many times over the years trying to find that feel good place in my life and after weeks or months of therapy I found them showing me the door because they believed I had found that space in my life. Little did they know, I didn’t.
Coaching has helped me find the answers I need for the questions and doubts I have. I’ve learned to brush off the negative voices in my head and listen to the pain and confusion they represent and use new skillsets to muffle their voices. (‘In Positive Intelligence, Shirzad Chamine helps you achieve your true potential in life and work by shifting your inner balance of power.’) I will be recommending this program to all my clients. It continues to help me balance my thoughts and actions to reflect the person I am choosing to be.
If you sign up for a coaching 6 week session with me I will assist you in finding yourself. You will be doing the work, I will provide you with tools that will help you today and into the future. These tools will assist you in creating a mindset that reflects your wants and needs. If I am not the ‘right’ coach for you I will provide you with contacts with other coaches that may specialize in the area of life you want to work on.
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Doctor Mom can fix everything
A week ago, last night my son, Alex, called me crying in pain. Just thirty minutes earlier he and I were kibitzing on the phone. Initially he was incoherent, and I had to just listen and soothingly ask him to slow down. He described his pain that suddenly hit him as the worst GAS pain he ever had. I tried using my coaching skills to help him through this. Unfortunately, he had nothing at home to take for GAS pain!
I suggested he call EMS. I may be “doctor-mom” at home, but I’m not a doctor. He suffered for 12 hours before he called EMS. Once in the ER they aggressively attempted to identify the pain source and quickly ruled out any heart issues despite the pain across his chest. However, the ultrasound pointed to his gallbladder, and yet they continued to run tests to confirm it was gallbladder, and they finally gave him morphine to mask the pain. The surgeon came in around 6 pm (21 hours after this pain started) and discussed removing his gallbladder.
My husband and I searched for airline tickets to take us from Cleveland to Dallas so we could be there with Alex. Leaving Cleveland at 7 am we got to Dallas by 10:30 and went directly to the hospital to find Alex waiting for surgery. They finally took him into surgery at 1:30 pm, and the plan was to do a robotic gall bladder removal that would be less invasive. However, the doctor found his gallbladder to be 2 to 3 times its size filled with stones, the gallbladder was ripe to burst and if it had it could have been fatal! So, a one-hour procedure turned into 3 hours.
Alex’s dad left for home on Tuesday morning, and I am here in Fort Worth until Sunday morning. Each day he shows signs of healing and taking less pain medication as well.
I’ve had this great opportunity to spend time with my son in his home which has limited furnishings which has tested my ability to get comfortable on an air bed and sitting on a patio type chair. But all is good, and I enjoy his company when he is not sleeping, tweeting, or playing a video game.
Today we took a UBER to his office so he could organize his arrangements to work from home for at least the next week. At his office today not one person, but everyone I met shared their love for Alex. Until today, the staff only knew he was sick but would be OK, his boss and HR knew the extent of it. So, as he shared his story of what has transpired in the last week, they were all so glad to know he really would be OK, and pleased to see that I was around to help him through this week.
When Alex left our home in December to drive the 1000 miles to Texas I cried like a baby, and thought my heart was broken forever. However, as any parent knows when your child leaves to follow their dreams, time will prove that your heart will heal. My heart began the healing process with each phone call hearing his voice and sharing his experiences.
However, the night of Wednesday, April 5th brought me the emotional pain Alex was suffering physically. Although I insisted, he call EMS he was choosing to suffer rather than go to the hospital and as he said, spend money… All I could 1000 miles away was attempt to comfort him as he asked me to stay on the phone with him, hoping the pain would subside. Tonight, I feel such relief that my son is healing and prospering. He is where he should be, creating his career path and living life on his own. Now I realize his father and I taught him well, and I am proud of the man he is, even without a gallbladder!
To My Family & Friends
21 February 2023
Panther City – LaCrosse
If you don’t know anything about Lacrosse well…
Lacrosse is a team sports and considered the oldest organized sport in North America. It is played with a Lacrosse Stick and a Lacrosse Ball.
Historical records indicate that the indigenous people of North America as early as the 12th century were playing this sport. The men’s teams play what is known as, Field LaCrosse, and they play this as both and indoor and outdoor sport.
“The modern sport is governed by World Lacrosse and is the only international sport organization to recognize First Nations bands and Native American tribes as sovereign nations” (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lacrosse)
newclevelandradio.net is sharing this information as Alex Hale (owner of newclevelandradio.net) is working with the team and we have chosen to support them.
This week’s Podcast 1/23/23
How to Super Age with Elise Marie Collins and her guest Barbara Graham_What Jonah Knew 1_25_23
What in the World with Paul Seaburn
and his sidekick John DiNallo 1_24_23 Season 6
Avoid the Maze with Barrett Matthews “Be Everywhere, All At Once” 1_25_23 podmatch#
Avoid the Maze with Jessie Torres_Abuse/Shame/Loss/Trauma 1_25_23 podmatch#
Avoid the Maze with Susy Lee_”Raising Kids Who Care” 1_25_23 podmatch#
I’MPOSSIBLE – We Told You Alex was POSSIBLE!
Last Spring Alex made the decision to look outside of the Indians/Guardians to advance his career. Cleveland had been very good to him for the 5 years he worked there but when advancement was not open, he knew it was time to seek outside of his comfort zone.
You may remember me announcing in the late Spring he took a job with the farm team of the NY Mets. What he was offered upon his acceptance changed when he moved there and although he tried to make it work, he knew he was in the wrong place, and he returned home. He began his search in July looking for the best fit – Well today it Happened – Alex is moving to Dallas, TX.
He is excited (and so are his dad and I) about this move where as Binghamton, NY was not an exciting move, but he did meet some great people there and he forged some lasting friendships. But he will be off to the big city before this year is up and I believe 2023 has a TRIP to Dallas with my name on it.
Do you remember me sharing that we (Alex, his dad and I) were told by a Psychiatrist at the Cleveland Board of Mental Health that Alex would not graduate high school without help, he would never graduate, college and we would place him in a half-way house where he would obtain a menial job. Well, “F” YOU Dr. Lorna – Alex said he would prove you wrong and he has – not only did he work and advance his experiences with the Guardians he was sought after by various teams; but due to the cost of moving and living he had to turn down offers. Alex may be on spectrum but don’t tell him he is different – the only difference may be his Will to learn and be his BEST.
We are so proud of our son and always have been. We have supported and cheered him on when others like Dr. Lorna told us to stop and give up. Seriously – The Guardians was his stepping stone – and if you don’t believe it – I will continue to share his success …
For those of you who stopped talking to Rich and I when Alex was diagnosed in 1996 – please GO “F” yourselves…When we needed our friends and Alex needed to be accepted for being the same person he was before his diagnosis – you deserted us.
To the Bully who assaulted our son in High School and to the students and faculty who saw it happen – it’s time to come forward and apologize to Alex. The Bully may not be around to apologize but there are plenty of YOU out there who can!!!
Back to the people we thought were our friends- you obviously weren’t!
Alex has taught our family to overcome adversity.
Today I Feel Successful
No I did not win a large contract or achieved a podcasting status to elevate my position on the charts – however, I successfully produced a new podcast this week while recording 5 shows and updating various client websites and I came across my writings for MYIMPOSSIBLEDREAM and The Davasha Series, and the links for those are now on this website at https://newclevelandradio.net/who-we-were-before-newclevelandradio-net/
If you haven’t listened yet but you heard about our newest podcast GRIEF BeLIEF please click and listen – we had some internet tech issues for the first show but we hope we resolved this for the future. https://youtu.be/LgUU9jXeKe8
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