Daily Comments 2021
4/20/21 Silent for too long…
I am appalled that anyone can believe today’s Jury Verdict was WRONG. There is a percentage of our police force that are not trained properly or retrained often enough to ensure that their anger and frustration that they face in their jobs does not end up with them killing someone in the name of restraining them. It must be very difficult to be a law enforcement officer in a world filled with crime, but if you sign up to do the job you must do it appropriately and within the guided restrictions.
Even if Floyd was passing off a counterfeit should the punishment for that crime be death?
We need to bring in the human element and we must start helping each other. I don’t want to preach the GOLDEN RULE but when we start putting ourselves in the shoes of others maybe we can provide the support and guidance to help our fellow man/woman. The nine-year-old little girl who witnessed this heinous crime was brave enough to step forward and help bring justice and compassion into our world. We must hold on to this moment and take the steps to make the changes needed in our society.
The United States is a melting pot and we should be proud of the fact that we are a mixture of many breeds, coming from lands most of us will never see in our lifetime. It is our ancestors that found their way to America where we could live with intimidation and persecution. If we don’t agree that Black Lives matter, how can we expect, white, brown, or any other hue will matter. There has always been hate in this world but until we learn and change that narrative we will not succeed and survive, we will continue destroying ourselves to prove WHAT?
Please take a moment and ask yourself what today’s verdict means to your safety. Because if you don’t begin to face life with the fear that our black brothers and sisters do, you may find yourself face down in the street with a police officer’s knee on your neck. We can help eliminate the fear if we let the Black Community guide us… It is time to come together and accept the differences that should not separate us but bring us together in harmony.
4/5/21 Automation has destroyed customer service and taken jobs away from individuals. Today I had to contact my CABLE Company because the TV signal in our bedroom loses channels and this has been happening about every six months since it was initially installed almost 13 years ago. I am not sure what is worse the customer service having an automation system that frustrates you as none of the options apply or the fact that once you get a customer service rep they have no idea what you are talking about since they don’t seem to keep accurate records. As usual, they want to walk you through unplugging and resetting your cable box, like I haven’t done this before calling?
Sadly the customer service employees are trained to only ask and answer bullet point questions with bullet point answers. What happened to trained employees, providing them with a skill bank of information, and allowing them to assist customers in need? Why is everything NON-TRANSPARENT when we are living in a world where TRANSPARENCY is a must? We have dummied down our society trying to make this SIMPLE and yet a little knowledge and understanding would be beneficial for all of us.
Isn’t time to bring back kindness, understanding, communication, and human decency. STOP ASSUMING – I AM NOT an ASS!
4/3/21 – tomorrow is 4/4/21
Although I don’t celebrate Easter, since my husband grew up in a semi-Christian home, I try to make a special dinner often using recipes his mother made or buying prepared foods she would have included. However, other than a meal it’s another Day, Sunday in our lives and since we don’t have to work we will try to do something out of the ordinary, and hopefully that includes going out into one of the parks and photograph life, including each other.
I want to take this time to wish you all a Happy Sunday, Easter, End of Passover or at least a happy 4/4/21, the countdown is over but we can all move forward. Moving forward is important for us all to live a life that will not regret. It means getting up and facing a new day with positivity. We all are capable of choosing how we confront the obstacles we encounter and those obstacles may lead us down a path that we may not have chosen if we didn’t take the time to look, listen and feel our environment.
Each day I wake up and just like you, I make choices that take me from one step to another, and if I slip and trip I get back up, sometimes with assistance. I am not too proud to take the hand of another, help does not identify me as being weak, it gives me strength and I am encouraged to assist others through my journey.
Tomorrow and every day should be a day of celebration, look for the beauty that surrounds you and make you the beautiful person you are.
4/1/21 _ NO JOKE
Good morning one and all… Step two for Pelvic Floor Prolapse was achieved yesterday during a very minor surgical procedure. My journey for recovery started with changing my diet as well as changing the medication I was on for bladder incontinence. I know we often hush-hush these conversations and that is why so many people suffer from symptoms that can be reduced and or eliminated. However, since I have given voice to this medical issue I have learned I am not alone and that many (millions) women suffer from this condition and the reality is WE do NOT HAVE TO SUFFER.
The procedure I had yesterday was a series of botox injections directly into the Pelvic Floor. Since my pain tolerance for this procedure was labeled 100 on a scale of 0 -10, it was performed under a heavy anesthetic therefore in the OR. Yesterday was a complete day of waste/sleep for me and today I will take it slow and easy as I am experiencing some cramping and mild pain. No need for major pain opioids a little Tylenol is keeping me comfortable.
Next week I will begin Pelvic Floor PT and we have recorded a few shows on this subject –
I encourage everyone if you think something is wrong, pain, discomfort, or even a feeling of Malaise, “Malaise is described as any of the following: a feeling of overall weakness. a feeling of discomfort. a feeling like you have an illness”, seek answers. Don’t let family, friends, or the medical community pass it off that it’s just in your head. Pain is real and not always easy to identify. I have been on a journey for almost 20 years trying to understand a reoccurring pain in the lower right quadrant of my stomach. Appendicitis ruled out as it comes and goes. Exercise ruled out because often movement kept it at bay. Scar tissue from previous surgeries was considered and after numerous ultrasounds, CAT Scans, and MRI’s no answers.
I was diagnosed with kidney stones and even after having those stones blasted the pain would return, so additional kidney stones, as well as gall stones, were eliminated from the cause. However, after the treatment of my kidney stones, I was referred to a specialist in Pelvic Prolapse as my urologist had a suspicion that this was the painful culprit.
Some additional symptoms in addition to incontinence included painful intercourse as well as pelvic exams – The first doctor was excellent in his diagnosis and treatment however, I was not 100% comfortable with him as I had difficulty understanding him due to his very heavy accent. I would not have sought out a new physician but I felt as if I was missing the connection I needed to get through this procedure. I was referred to Dr. M (a female) who I connected with immediately. I am very aware of what can and cannot be done, and I am feeling hopeful.
The botox injections she performed yesterday will take a week to ten days to begin working. (Botox injections in the vagina can be effective in treating women with pelvic muscle spasms, also known as pelvic floor dysfunction. Patients with pelvic muscle spasms can exhibit many different symptoms since the pelvic floor comes into contact with the bladder, the vagina, the rectum, the coccyx, and the pubic bone.) Also, I will start PT next week and keep an open mind that this journey is successful.
I may have turned 71 this year but that does mean I must continue to give into pain that interrupts my life… I’M POSSIBLE!
3/29/21 Today I was tested for COVID, the anticipation caused me a lot of anxiety and it was poor and simple. Did it feel weird, YES! Did it hurt, tingled not hurt! Was it quick – YES and in both nostrils. So if you are wondering why a vaccinated individual needed to have a COVID test it’s because I am having a minor surgical procedure on Wednesday and I must test negative to have this treatment done. I will also need to be tested when I have my cataract surgeries but the fear and anticipation for pain and or discomfort will not proceed that.
So for those of you wondering what the procedure is – I am open to sharing this as I have talked and written (blogged) about Pelvic Prolapse. Some women get this condition and have no real symptoms and blame any form of incontinence on aging, and although our bodies change with each birthday, not everyone has to experience discomfort or symptoms that prohibit them from living life fully. If I had known back when the year 2000 hit, I may have recognized that the reoccurring pain I was having was not appendicitis and yet it was real. I am not blaming any of my doctors for not taking me seriously when I informed them of a sharp reoccurring pain on my right side that often circled its way around to my back, but one of them should have known why I was having this medical issue.
Approximately two years ago when being treated for kidney stones, a male urologist suggested I may be suffering from Pelvic Prolapse and he referred me to a specialist. I went to this doctor and as good as he was I had a difficult time communicating with him and after months of Physical Therapy and numerous follow-up trips to his office, I chose to try to ignore my medical problem, until this fall when my symptoms got worse and I found myself working in pain more often than not.
In February I was referred to another specialist and having a female doctor who understands my situation and communicates with me in a manner in which I understand and trust I am starting my treatment on Wednesday. Now I know some of you have received Botox injections for migraines, and some for cosmetic purposes. Those that have received them for headaches also received the benefit of forehead lines diminishing. While even if I have wrinkles in my pelvic area I will never see their elimination but I hope I will receive some comfort and as I move back in PT I will be able to get my body to readjust its self…if not there are other treatments that I am aware of and my doctor is as well.
If this makes no sense to you, please listen to the podcast I recorded :
A Girl’s Conversation https://www.spreaker.com/user/10697139/lessons-learned-with-karen-kiki-womens-h
Today is my husband’s birthday, we are almost (exactly) 3 weeks to the minute apart in age- I am older! Rich is not on Facebook, he rarely uses Twitter or any social media site. He is online a lot for work and checking out actors and actresses from days gone by. So he may or may not know I am spreading joy for his birthday on this beautiful spring day in Cleveland, Ohio.
Growing up my mother told me I should marry a rich man, and although my Rich is not wealthy in the financial sense of the term, he an abundance of love for me that I bank in my heart. We may not be the perfect ‘beautiful couple’ that the media spotlights, but we are living the true sense of married life with many Ups and dOWNS! What I believe is the answer to our 37 years together is that we understand each other and when we don’t we accept that not everything in this universe can be explained.
I may have shared this in the past but my mother did not approve of Rich when she first met him. The circumstances of their meeting were not planned however, my father had a heart attack and Rich drove me to Detroit to be at his side and comfort my mom. Little did I know my father was happy to meet this ‘gentle’ man who appeared to care for his daughter, while my mom only saw him as a non-Jew (and in her Jewish tradition did the spitting sounds of ‘poo, poo’ to ward off the evil eye).
My father recovered from his heart attack and with the assistance of my sister-in-law at the time my mother came around giving Rich a chance and she soon fell in love with him, even before he was in love with me.
If you know my husband you will understand that he appears to have two different personalities. If he is comfortable in his surroundings he can be an extrovert almost to the extreme and when he feels less he is a silent extrovert. His mother always said Rich marched to the beat of a different drummer, and it wasn’t until he was in his fifties was he diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum. For those of you wondering, Autism does not have a look and each individual has their areas of excellence as well as deficiencies. (Doesn’t that sound like each one of us?)
This past year has been as challenging for us as it has been for you as well. We began the Pandemic last year with me recovering from knee surgery and Rich being the candidate for all out-of-the-house chores. It was the first time in our marriage that I took a backseat and Rich took the reigns. Growing up in the 50s and 60s we both harbored old stereotypes of who should do what and who shouldn’t. For us 2020 changed that and we are now down a new path but still together. Shopping is not a woman’s chore and vacuuming can also be done by the male species. Funny, it took a Pandemic, and being forced to be together 24/7 didn’t break us but created a clearer picture for us. This is not to say that life is all rainbows and lollipops, but we continue to reach for them adding sunshine and smiles to difficult challenges.
Today maybe Rich’s Birth, day, but each day is a celebration of life choosing to remain in love and experience life together while keeping memories alive.
I understand writer’s block even if some may infer I am not a writer, I just play at being one with my blogs, and long-winded posts on social media. However, my daily postings have dwindled since the first of the year and yet I still hear the wheels turning in my head, thoughts, more thoughts, and many, many more…
Over the last couple of weeks, I started evolving again. Well, it’s not like we stop evolving because change is the only constant in life. From the moment of conception, even before we become a person when the egg follicle is fertilized by the sperm a process of change begins. (fusion of sperm and egg pronuclei and activation of the zygote.) THIS IS NOT A BLOG ON CONCEPTION – HOWEVER IT IS ONE WAY AT LOOKING AT HOW WE ARE CONSTANTLY PROGRESSING
Progressing does not necessarily imply maturing or developing importance. My definition is we are taking steps into the future and we have choices to make every time we put one foot in front of the other. When we don’t think before we step (speak) we may find our foot in our mouth causing us to trip and fall. The choice we must make upon impact is either dust ourselves off and stand up looking forward and selecting ‘our’ path or curl up in a ball and shut off our thoughts remaining dormant.
I refuse to STOP, “having normal physical functions suspended or slowed down for a while; or being in a deep sleep.” Life moves too fast, or it seems to fly by, however, when we are moving in a positive direction even the negativity we face can be less oppressive.
Newclevelandradio.net is also evolving once again and you will hear/see some new changes. We are opening up some of our podcasts to you the listener. When we post the shows we will have a link that you can click on to participate in the recording. Some of these podcasts reflect subjects that you may be connected to: The Mean Girl Syndrome, Anxiety, Relationships (sex), and Long Term Planning.
As I take newclevelandradio.net to a higher level it also takes me down a different path one I chose when I got to the fork in the road. Every fork has tines that can lead to new experiences, opportunities, and challenges. As Spring approaches in just a few days I encourage you to seek the happiness that is your life!
2/24/25 All I Wrote
2/22/21 A Mistake = Learn A Lesson
2/12/21 TGIF- WHY?
2/9/21 The Voices are real
2/8/21 We Couldn’t Wait
2/5/21 FEEL THE PAIN
2/3/21 (thank you Darcy Luoma)
A recent headline caught my attention in Google news alerts: “Study finds doughnuts the most likely food to put you in a bad mood.” It wasn’t so much about the food item as it was the power of that doughnut…
Put you in a bad mood?
I got thinking about all the things that can “put” me in a bad mood: being late, someone else being late, a messy kitchen, finding dog poop behind the couch, I could go on.
The power of mood
Our mood can set the tone for the day. And it can also have an impact on our behavior. Have you ever walked into a room in a bit of a huff and then blamed it on being in a bad mood because of traffic, weather, your boss, your dog, etc. etc,? You’re not alone.
There’s even a new study out that shows teenagers can catch moods from their friends. As a mother of teenagers, I didn’t need a study to tell me that, but it’s comforting to read the science.
There’s no question our mood can have an impact on us and others around us. But can we have an impact on our mood?
What do you control? What are your choices?
At the core of being Thoughtfully Fit, is focusing on your choices and what you control. Let’s look at our core from the perspective of mood.
Can you control your mood?
Simply put, no. You can’t control your mood, when you’re in it. If you’re in a bad mood, you can’t change in that moment the way you can change your sweater. If you’re in a bad mood, that’s simply where you are. Pretending you’re not doesn’t work. (There’s lots of research on this, like this: Experts Say Trying to Force Yourself to Be Happy Doesn’t Work.)
What are your choices?
Think that because you’re in a bad mood you have to have a bad day? Or that gives you permission to take your bad mood out on everyone else?
You may not be able to control your mood when you’re in it, but you have plenty of choices on how you respond to it. This is where your power is! If you’re in a bad mood, you can still choose how you want to deal with it.
You can address what it is that “put” you in a bad mood (have that conversation with a coworker). You can acknowledge the negative self-talk running through your head, like “I’m not enough”. And if you know you’d feel better if you put down your phone or went for a walk, well then you can choose to do that.
You can also choose if you want to be vulnerable and let people know what’s going on. It’s not uncommon on my team for someone to say at the beginning of a meeting, “I’m having a rough day, so if I seem off my game don’t hesitate to ask some clarifying questions.” Sharing this upfront doesn’t mean they’re off the hook for crappy behavior, but the act of sharing where you are in that moment is like releasing the air on a pressure cooker. Everyone can take a breath and be a bit more understanding.
One-Minute Thoughtfully Fit Workout
So here’s a one-minute workout that you might be able to do in 30-seconds!
Pause. Check in with yourself.
Think. How would you describe your mood? What choices do you have right now? How do you want to show up in this moment, in this mood?
Act. Whatever you decide, do that!
Becoming aware of your moods
The more you think about your mood, the more you can recognize what put you in that mood. Take some time to notice your moods and see what you discover about yourself. If you choose, you can look for patterns for things that “put” you in a good mood.
Who knows, it might just be a doughnut!
24 Hour Rule
BE BOLD “The Bold Ones”
RIP Mr & Mrs Fred Rogers
This needs no words 1/12/21
Make it Your Day
LIKE YOURSELF it’s FRIDAY
TIME FOR COMPASSION AND AWARENESS
POP – Pelvic Prolapse
It is Monday morning, often called the first day of the week, although Sunday is technically the first day of our seven-day week. Have you ever pondered the question of why we have seven days in a week and not five, or nine, or yet an even number like EIGHT? Well, I have, and I found this tidbit, “The Babylonians, who lived in modern-day Iraq, were astute observers and interpreters of the heavens, and it is largely thanks to them that our weeks are seven days long. The reason they adopted the number seven was that they observed seven celestial bodies — the sun, the moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, and Saturn.”
I also have my answer to why Sunday is the first day of the week, “The first day of the week (for most), Sunday has been set aside as the “day of the sun” since ancient Egyptian times in honor of the sun-god, beginning with Ra. The Egyptians passed their idea of a 7-day week onto the Romans, who also started their week with the Sun’s day, dies soli.”
However, many of us start our first day on Monday; whether religious or not, Sunday is our day of rest. Even for those who may work on this day, we observe it as different from Monday through Friday, even suggesting that Saturday be our self-day. It may be ironic that Saturday and Sunday, the last and first days of the week, have been identified as ‘S’elf Days (whether observing the Sabbath or personal needs.) The Sabbath’s purpose is identified as a day of rest, reflection and to commemorate that after G-D created the earth, he rested on the 7th Day! So, we, too, observe our idea of rest!
The historical records show that there once was a time that the sabbath, whether observed on Saturday or Sunday, was a day when people like you and I stopped working for 24 hours. In fact, I grew up during an era of the Blue Sunday Laws, when businesses were prohibited from being open on Sundays. The few that were open were family spots like restaurants, movie theaters, and bowling alleys, that encouraged us to socialize. We walked away from our offices and the pressures that we may experience in our jobs/careers. We chose to rest in various forms of activities.
Over the last 70 years of my life, laws have changed, and our obsession for being busy and involved in something, many things, anything seems to drive us to work, and our economy has made work more than a necessity. The day of rest is often just another day, and it could be a Sunday, a Monday, A Tuesday, or any one of the seven! For some, rest only comes at the end of each day when we lay our heads down on our pillow and go to sleep. As I have shared, falling asleep is easy for me, staying asleep is difficult, and rising early in the morning has become a routine that I would like to change. For most of my life working outside the home, I had to get up early, and my days ended late, and I dreamt of the day when the alarm clock would not be a necessity. However, it isn’t necessary since my internal alarm wakes me. I like the idea that today I can start my day doing what I love best, writing.
My writing is my legacy for anyone who cares to read it. I am just one of the 7.7 Billion people on this planet, and yet my stories are often interlaced with yours, and yours mine. We all have a common thread that weaves us together. Sometimes it is obvious; other times, if we take a moment and observe, we will see it. We can find IT if we choose. Finding IT begins with being Intune with ourselves. The term today is “Being Present.” To be present means you are aware of yourself and your surroundings. Not only are you mentally connected but physically as well. Your body expresses the energy in the form of sensations, and those sensations trigger thoughts. When we are present, we can focus on the positive and dissolve the negative energy. The negative forces only destroy us and those we touch.
I chose positive energy and to be present for myself and you. Together we guide ourselves to achieve the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow filled with goodness!
SLEEP or NO SLEEP