In lieu of yesterday’s distressing events in our Nation’s capital, we’re finding it hard to focus on this month’s theme – Dream BIG, and our weekly topic – creating our personal timeline.

None of us will forget where we were, who we were with, and how we (continue to) process these tragic events for our country – much like we won’t forget where we were as 9/11 unfolded. Perhaps this is how it fits with our personal timeline? THIS – these events – yesterday/today are now a part of all our timelines.

We’ve never shied away from hard conversations or hard topics, yet, after what feels like some of our hardest days – weeks – months and almost a year – here we are – more HARD.

It strikes me how much pain there is in the world. We were never promised a life without pain. Yet, so much pain? I know as caregivers, we often ask ourselves the same question.

I’m doing my best NOT to turn on the news. It’s almost too much to bear witness to. Trust me, I’m not living in a fantasy world where I believe we are or should be all the same, sharing the same values and beliefs and understanding. I actually believe all of our differences are what makes life’s journey – our stories – so much richer.

I’m also doing my best to not judge. I have witnessed so much judgment – self-judgment and judgment of others.

Let’s for just this moment, first, take a long, deep, cleansing breath together. Then, let’s not judge – let’s pray or offer our hearts and thoughts – and pray for more kindness and love and less hate. Let’s also send up our hearts and souls that those living with so much pain can find a way to let go of that pain, find a way to heal and move forward in peace.

I also know that offering thoughts and prayers feel small right now, and often does. When things feel out of control, I am reminded to focus on what is in my control.

Right now, what IS in my control are my values – including kindness, compassion, love – and how I live my values. How I choose to tell my story – and I choose hope. I am only one person, yet, history has shown that one person CAN make a difference. It starts with us.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” – Karen Mass

We all have a story. Your story is your journey, with all the bumps and stops and detours.

As we look at our personal timelines, our stories – how can we bring and find HOPE from our own stories – and those of others?

Having a personal VISION for yourself – how you see your life unfolding – how you navigate the twists and turns of your life – begins with your values.

What is important to you? What is on your moral compass that guides your decision-making?

Having clarity – 20/20 vision – of what you hope to achieve and accomplish in your lifetime is essential to navigating the ups and downs that life throws at us.

When you have a clear vision – you are able to …

… tackle hard decisions more easily

… maintain a healthy perspective when things get hard

… stay focused on where you are going – keeping your eye on the prize – your ability to dream BIG!

“Make your vision so clear that your fears become irrelevant.” – Unknown

Remember … COURAGE is the antidote to fear.

SO, muster up ALL the courage you can – and create that VISION for your life where your fears are irrelevant.

Amidst all the complicated emotions we have these hard days … don’t forget it all starts with you, so don’t forget to take care of YOU, too.

Sent in peace with love,

Kristi Horner
Founder and Executive Director
Courage to Caregivers