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Darcy Luoma _A Breath of Fresh Air

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Darcy was a guest on Matt Jackson’s Podcast BE BOLD/ BE HEARD

Her words, her story, her journey is worth a listen..


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10 May 2021

Ok Ladies and Gentlemen it is time to share your story, your journey, or your mission in life.  We are not promised tomorrow, but we have today, we are in the present, and on behalf of, I want to invite you to become part of our podcasting family.

Have you thought about starting a podcast but didn’t know where to begin?  Are you motivated enough to invest in the right equipment, software programs, and editing tools to make your podcast stand out?  Sure you can podcast on your Smart Phone and you may have a zillion and one friends but will you reach all of them when you post your link?

I have been podcasting now for over 5 years and recording for another 5 years before that and I am still learning the tricks of the trade.  I have taken over from my son Alex and I have grown the podcasts and listeners exponentially.  When you team with other podcasters you are privy to their friends and contacts and they are privy to yours and together we can be successful.

Our mission is to produce only positive messaging shows.  The majority of us are not experts in our field but we know enough about life experiences to share them and learn from them.  If we touch just one listener we have created a decisive moment for them.  Wouldn’t you like to help someone just by sharing what makes YOU FEEL GOOD?

We are not here to sell products but to share products, ideas, concerns, strategies, and a lot of smiles and laughter along the way.  So it’s your turn and you are welcome to be part of something bigger than any one of us alone…  TRY IT, YOU MIGHT LIKE IT!  (Mikey tried and he liked it – the 70’s Life Cereal Kid!)

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Check out the Art Work of Barbara Rose Brooker

It Couldn’t Be Done (THAT IS NOT TRUE!)

Edgar Guest – 1881-1959

My father used to recite this poem to us – he believed the words of Edgar Guest, and so do I.  Just look at the accomplishments of Barbara Rose Brooker, she is a published author, as well as a magnificent painter, and at 84 she hopes to be a movie star someday.  She rejoices each year as she adds another candle to her cake, proving that IT CAN BE DONE!

Somebody said that it couldn’t be done,
     But he with a chuckle replied
That “maybe it couldn’t,” but he would be one
     Who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
     On his face. If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
     That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that;
     At least no one ever has done it”;
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat,
     And the first thing we knew he’d begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
     Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
     That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
     There are thousands to prophesy failure;
There are thousands to point out to you one by one,
     The dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle in with a bit of a grin,
     Just take off your coat and go to it;
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
     That “cannot be done,” and you’ll do it.

A Message from Caffe’ Lena where the Music NEVER Dies

Our Stages Have Been Saved
Greetings – The American Rescue Plan just signed into law includes funds to rescue and restart performing arts. As we all know, these things don’t just happen. You’ve seen the #SaveOurStages hashtag in the bottom left corner of our livestream screen for months now. That hashtag has been the rallying cry of the myriad entities that make up the live music industry. If you wrote a letter or made a call to get #SaveOurStages funds included in the rescue package, please know that yours was one of well over one million messages delivered.

We are proud to say that our congresswoman, Elise Stefanik, as well as our senators, Chuck Schumer and Kirstin Gillibrand, were all advocates for the arts bailout. However, Senator Schumer deserves an extra thank you. At the last minute, he removed a significant barrier in the bill so that qualifying venues can have a much better chance of securing meaningful assistance.

This money will preserve the diverse ecosystem of performing arts venues, and will therefore have a lasting impact on the music we will hear for many years to come.


LAWRENCE S. KATZ- Author- And So Much More!

I am pleased to introduce you to my guest on Lessons Learned this Friday, February 12, 2021, when my friend Lawrence S. Katz talks BASEBALL

Lawrence S. Katz has written numerous articles about baseball for publications including Sports Collectors Digest, The Baseball Research Journal, and Primo Magazine. He contributed a chapter entitled “When Immortals Returned to the Minors” for The Perfect Game, an anthology published by the Taylor Publishing Company in 1993 and by Barnes & Noble in 1995.

This work is a revised edition of his book Baseball in 1939: The Watershed Season of the National Pastime, published by McFarland and Company in 1995 and 2012.  The book, and his abstract titled “Baseball & Cultural Change in the Late 1930s,” are included in the Baseball Hall of Fame Library collection.

Katz has spoken on a variety of baseball subjects, including Depression Era baseball at the Baseball in Literature and Culture Symposium at Indiana State University, the recent return of minor league baseball to the Detroit area,  and the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League – featured in the movie A League of their Own – at a dinner honoring former player Rose Gacioch.

He realized his dream of appearing on a major league pitching mound before a packed house when he sang the National Anthem with a choral group at Tiger Stadium in Detroit in 1988.

He has been a member of The Society for American Baseball Research since 1983.

Katz received his J.D. from Wayne State University Law School in 1972. He lives in Michigan with his wife, author Karen Tintori Katz.


17 years ago today was not just another day –

I am not sure what this is all about

I woke and share a quick breakfast with my husband who had to attend a 3-day conference in Pittsburgh (for work)

The day and the date to celebrate our 1st of two wedding anniversaries on that day was postponed for another time

A 20th anniversary is a milestone but not for us at least on February 3rd.

He traveled to Pittsburgh and I went to work

The day felt as normal as a day could be – in the back of my mind I knew my father was experiencing his last days with us – but each night he would have my mom or his hospice nurse call to say, he would be around yet another day – no goodbyes!

Early in the evening after working and playing single mom, I spoke with mom and dad’s hospice nurse held the phone near my dad’s ear, and helped him talk to me (this would be the last time.)

Before they hung up his nurse (I have since forgotten her name), his guiding angel prepared me that his end was near.

My father had come close to the end of his journey numerous times in my life and bounced back – would this be the same scenario?

I don’t remember the exact time but sometime around 11 or midnight, I got the call …

My mother calmly told me that dad had passed and as I became emotional she told me there was no need, dad was now at peace…

My stoic mom stood tall (even at 4 Ft- 9 Inches high), she organized the events of the next few days getting all of her chickens (three of us) to Detroit and we came from East, West, and South!

After my mother’s phone call I remember looking at the clock and noting my POPs died on my 20th Wedding Anniversary

If he (or GOD) chose this day it could not be more perfect – because I know my father loved me with his whole heart

I was not a perfect daughter but I was his and along with my two brothers and my mom, his D’Vasha, he was the happiest richest man in the world.

I speak of him regularly and I speak to him through my heart –

A little aside – on February 4, 2004, all his children were gathered together sleeping in his apartment palace.

Mom and Dad Forever

Although not enough beds and private rooms for us we took up spaces on air mattresses, chairs, and found some personal real estate to lay down to sleep.  When all the lights turned off my brother Joel yelled out good-night John Boy, and we all responded, calling out each other names giggling through it all.

On the first night of Shiva, just as we were gathered for evening prayers, the lights went out for a second or two and then flickered back on.  A calm, as well as a giddiness, swept over all who stood in my mother’s small livingroom – we knew Jay Harmon Moss was shedding his light down on us.

Today – it is 17 years without him on earth and what I would give to have another bear hug and a sloppy kiss from my father – I will soak in all the wonderful memories and know someday I will see him again!

Thank You Alicia Mindlin for posting – a must read!

To the person who is about to judge..
..the girl wearing make-up in the gym. Did you know that she never gets a chance to go out and feel pretty, because she spends all her time trying to take care of her children at home? Did you know that she tries to make the most out of her one single hour, 3 days a week?
..the girl wearing the bright leggings that show her dimples. Did you know that she was once scared to even go to the gym, out of fear of what people may think? She once thought that the gym was a place for the already “fit” people and that she didn’t belong. Did you know that going to the gym, and wearing those leggings, makes her feel empowered?
..the thicker girl wearing the crop top. Did you know that she has already lost 50 pounds? Did you know that her self-esteem has sky-rocketed, and now feels that she could do anything she puts her mind to? Did you know that your opinion of her does not matter? Because she knows her worth now, and nothing is getting in her way.
..the underweight girl who’s in the gym. Did you know that she isn’t in the gym to lose weight, but to gain weight? Did you know that in her gym bag, she has different protein powders, snacks, and her next meal so she can do her best to try and eat more? Did you know that she would give anything to gain an extra 10 pounds?
..the girl who is using an exercise machine incorrectly. Did you know that she finally decided to make a change, for the better? Did you know that both her parents are on the road to heart disease, and she doesn’t want to end up that way? Did you know that even though she has no idea how to do it, she is going to get healthier?
..the girl who’s always working out, rain or shine. Did you know that her husband belittles her, and makes her feel like nothing? Did you know that going to the gym, or taking a long walk, is her way to away from it all? That exercising is her way of surviving?
So, to the person who is about to judge.. don’t.
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I like the #46

While traveling with my husband today we listened to the I inauguration on MSNBC.  Prior to leaving the house, I was honored to watch 45 take-off to his secluded paradise and hope to remain as far away from government politics forever.  I tried to give him a fair chance four years ago, but he blew it immediately fabricating his own account on his inauguration claiming 1.5 million showed up to witness his special day when the fact-finders provide evidence of 250,000 on or around the Mall area.  The side-by-side comparison photos from the 2009 Obama inauguration show Trump had significantly less people in attendance than his predecessor.  I will give Trump kudos that he had followers for the four years he was in office, however many of his followers switched camps due to his blatant lies among other things.

Today, at about noon EST I started feeling a sense of relief.  I now knew we were in the hands of Joseph R. Bident, the 46th President of the United States, and Vice President Kamala Harris.  I pray that they will be guided by honest and kind human beings as they themselves are.  They have both worked through the trenches to get to where they are today.  It will not be an easy job to erase the distrust and hate that seeped into our water supplies, but we can do it.  For those who are Trumpsters, and believe the election was stolen, and that an “old” man won the election, let me say this… I feel your pain.  It is not fun to lose something that you have convinced yourself is meaningful and needed in your life.  You have the right to feel unhappy as I did four years ago, and you have the right to disagree with me and the majority that legally and fairly voted in the new administration.  But you and I must be adults about the outcome and the future and work together to find the common ground we both want.

Losing is never as much fun as winning but if we stand united, we will all win.  There are compromises to make and we must collaborate using our strengths to come together.  We must put down the weapons, including the evil language many of us have adopted in the last four years.  The nursery rhyme “Sticks and Stones will break your bones, but names will never hurt you…” is a fallacy.  Words can be more hurtful and damaging than all the sticks and stones that are thrown at us.  Language can leave scars only felt by the heart and often not seen by the naked eye.

I ask each of you to erase the pain of the last four years and make today a positive step forward.

Take a moment and listen to this beautiful song by my friend Jeff Brisbin  I Wish You Enough4:06



The Mission Kristi Horner Founder and Executive Director Courage to Caregiver

One of the first things we did at Courage to Caregivers was to develop a mission statement. We wanted a clear, compelling statement that would reflect our values, guide our vision, and help drive every decision we made. It wasn’t easy to find just the right words, but that mission – to provide hope, support, and courage to caregivers and loved ones of those living with mental illness – now serves as our anchor. And it has YOU at its very core. YOU are our WHY.

personal mission statement can be an anchor for you, too. During turbulent times, it helps to know exactly who you are and what you believe. In just a few words, a mission statement is a summary of your values and goals that explains who you are, what is important to you, and where you want to go in life. It describes the authentic YOU in a snapshot of a single sentence.

Take a look at these examples of strong personal mission statements:

  • “To be a teacher. And to be known for inspiring my students to be more than they thought they could be.” – Oprah Winfrey
  • “To have fun in [my] journey through life and learn from [my] mistakes.” – Sir Richard Branson
  • “To help others live the lives they would if they only knew how.” – Andy Andrews

If you need help creating your own mission statement, think of it as a journey, and use your core values as your guide map. What are the values that are most important to you, that serve as the very core of your beliefs, and that guide all of your decisions?

We’ve identified our core values, and maybe some of them will resonate with you. They include:

  • Acceptance
  • Collaborative
  • Compassion
  • Confidentiality
  • Empowerment
  • Growth mindset
  • Hopeful
  • Inspiration
  • Integrity
  • Judgment-free
  • Open-minded
  • Positivity
  • Resilience

Once you know your core values, the next step is to decide where you want to go (your goals). Then, think about what “the best” would look like for you (dream BIG), how you want to act, and what kind of legacy you want to leave behind.

That’s all there is to it! A personal mission statement allows you to describe yourself, your values, and your goals and to let others know that you are not just a caregiver. You are an individual who is anchored by hopes, dreams, and promise! It all starts with YOU.

Caring together,

Kristi Horner
Founder and Executive Director
Courage to Caregivers